"I think it's about paying attention to what your kid needs that 
day/night. Like there are nights when my kid is sick and I'll do 
whatever it takes to get them to sleep...even if that means holding them
 up on my chest all night. Or if my son is feeling especially anxious or
 scared about something I will let him sleep in our bed. But there are 
times when absolutely nothing is wrong and all their needs have been met
 and maybe they're just overstimulated and need to be alone in their 
crib/bed and they will probably cry until they fall asleep. And that's 
actually what they need in that moment. And we mustn't neglect the needs
 of the mom and dad. Sometimes a parent desperately needs sleep so they 
can function properly and that might mean they have their kid CIO/sleep 
train. Or maybe a couple really needs their alone time so that means no 
co-sleeping. There's no way you can know every single family's 
needs/dynamic. People can't judge parents who CIO or cosleep or whatever
 they choose because you don't know what that family's needs are. And 
every mom knows their own baby best not some stranger or "sleep expert."' -KA
"I'm definitely against CIO. Babies and children need nurturing and by crying, they are showing that they are in need...Studies show that babies who have more physical touch with caretakers and who have not been left to CIO are more stable as they grow. Society today is in too much of a rush to push their children out of the nest so to say. And more 4 month old breastfed son does sleep through the night so a child's sleep pattern should be natural, not forced upon him by making him feel alone and helpless. However, parents
 who dont believe in crying it out, if at all for any reason they feel 
as if they might snap or get violent that then they should put the child
 down then. CIO is better than physically harming a child." - MVC
"We
 did CIO with our daughter at 6 mo. Well she would cry for like a minute
 and just fall asleep and now at 3 she sleeps perfect and there's 
nothing wrong with her. and my son is 18 mo and we didn't have to do it.
 We just let him sleep in her room and he must have took notes from her." -CG
What are your opinions on Waiting It Out (WIO) versus Crying It Out (CIO)? It's a controversial topic that divides a lot of parents, and even a lot of households, but I am curious to get a RESPECTFUL dialogue going about sleep training/teaching/coaching your child or waiting for them to settle into their own rhythm...
 
I do have to say that just because a baby is crying doesnt mean they need something. I let my daughter cry it out sometimes when shr refuses to sleep. Sadly shes almost 11 months old and has slept through the night MAYBE 10 times. When i let her cry it out, shes not crying because shes hungry or wants me to hold her. Shes crying because shes mad and doesnt want to go to sleep or be in her crib. I definitely agree with the first quotation you posted!!
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